Thursday, August 18, 2011

Tell The Truth Thursday! Unwanted advice and comments

I like these shirts for kids that say things like "My mom didn't ask for your advice"

I'm not sure that I would ever put a shirt like this on my child but I sure do like them and I agree with them actually.

There is nothing worse to me than a know-it-all in the first place, but when it comes to parenting COME ON! Live and let live is my personal opinion... yes I do like everyone else, judge others in my head and think wow that's not how I would deal with that or that's not how I would correct that behavior but I would never walk up to a person and tell them the way they are dealing with their child is wrong or even tell them this is how I would do it. But there are so many out there who do... I couldn't believe when I got pregnant with Delaney that from minute one strangers thought that having a baby belly was an open invitation for them to tell me how to raise the baby once she was born. Not only did I get advice about newborns but also about Dr's and about labor and delivery,  and about diapers and everything else that you could imagine... 

I actually got cornered while at a wedding by a co-workers aunt who gave me the rundown according to her on everything from birth to sending my baby off to college. Luckily I got away from her when she was distracted by another attendee at the wedding, she had asked for my email and phone number and wanted to swap hers as well in case I had any questions for her after the baby was born.
Then just a few weeks ago I was at a coffee shop in the local mall. I was with Delaney, and she was acting up a little. So I did what I would do anytime or anyplace, I told her that little girls who don't listen and don't behave don't get treats. An older lady turned around and looked at me, then at Delaney and said "you tell mommy that your always a good girl..." Delaney looked at her like she was crazy and then back at me as if to say "what is this lady doing talking to me..." The older lady then looks at me and says "You shouldn't deprive her of sweets, and tell her she's a bad girl. She will only act up more to get attention" meanwhile my child is now standing in line waiting quietly and behaving as she should knowing that she will get her treat if she does.

I understand that everyone does things differently, I understand that there are lots of parents out there who have been doing this a whole lot longer than I have, I also understand that some people look at me and think that I am a whole lot younger than I am and that I am likely in over my head, however I still think that it is each and every parents choice and right to raise their children as they see fit. (As long of course as they are not physically or mentally abusing them) 

If you find these shirts entertaining or rude, over the top or right on point you have to admit that they are at least a little true.... Who really wants a stranger to come up to them just to have them start lecturing and giving advice on how to raise your family!

Have you been offered unwanted advice? Do you like these t shirts? Would you ever put a shirt like this on your child? Let me know in the comments what do you think!

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